Go for the EASE - not the EASY
I often describe living life from the Heart as living with a greater sense of Ease. It’s going through life a bit less troubled.
But when I describe this to people they tend to resist the idea of Ease. I’ll hear: “But it isn’t easy to live from your Heart.” And I have to agree. It isn’t easy to live from your heart. In fact, it’s pretty hard for me at times.
But there’s a world of difference in the two words simple words : EASE and EASY.
Easy implies a life where there are no struggles. You don’t have to work to get what you want. You don’t have life experiences that cause pain or suffering. When things are easy there really aren’t any ups or downs in life. Nothing bugs you. Life is cooperating with you and you don’t have to deal with anything that is uncomfortable or in the least bit challenging.
Most of us think that an Easy life is what we want.
Unfortunately, I’ve never met anyone who’s life doesn’t go up and down at times. I’ve never seen anyone who doesn’t have life events that interrupt their plans. Granted some people have more interruptions and challenges than others. But no one has a life that is 100% easy all of the time.
Demanding that your life be easy all of the time inevitably leads to major stress when things get challenging. When life asks you to do some hard work you will get angry. You may even shrink away from the work your soul is calling you to do. Then you get stuck in a rut and never empower yourself to grow. Trying to keep life easy is a prescription for anger, resentment, stagnation, and disempowerment.
So now an Easy life doesn’t sound so appealing. But if we take Easy off the table, what’s left?
EASE.
Even with all of the ups and downs, all of the challenges, all of the ways life isn’t cooperating, it’s still possible to move through life with a sense of Ease.
Ease comes when you’re in agreement with your life. That means you stop fighting with what’s actually happening. You stop demanding that life change for you. You don’t have to love what’s happening, but you agree that it IS in fact happening. As soon as you start agreeing that life is happening exactly how it’s happening -you will start to feel more easeful.
I’m not going to lie. Sometimes it’s hard work to move into ease. It’s hard work not to fight with life when life takes a loved one from you. It’s hard work when life challenges your assumptions about yourself or someone else. So remember, we’re looking for Ease, not Easy.
When you’re relating to life with more Ease, you feel at home in your own skin. The ups and downs of life happen but you don’t go on an energetic roller coaster with them. You can go with the flow of your life and your circumstances. Ease feels like flow, like freedom, like acceptance. Sometimes there is Ease in joy, sometimes in sorrow, but any emotion met with compassion will bring more ease to your life.
So the next time you’re tempted to complain about your life or wish away your troubles, try something new. Welcome your life as it is - interruptions and all. And instead of wishing for things to be Easy, wish for Ease within yourself.
Remember, Easy is what your mind thinks it wants. Ease is what you feel when you live from your Heart.
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